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Common Questions
Here are some of the most commonly asked questions about divorce. Click on a question to get a quick answer and access more detailed information.
How do you tell your friends and family that you are getting divorced?
When you are ready to share your news, start by reaching out to trusted friends or family directly. Avoid posting divorce-related content on social media. If there are children involved, approach them with honesty and compassion.
How much does a divorce cost?
The cost of your divorce will depend on your unique circumstances, including the assets that must be divided, any children who must be accommodated, and how contentious the situation is between you and your spouse. Simple, uncontested cases can be as little as a few hundred dollars, while complex, drawn-out cases can run much higher, with some couples spending more than $100,000 to dissolve their marriage.
How do I tell my kids about divorce?
Talking to your children about a divorce can be difficult. They often won’t understand what’s happening or why. Explain to them that they are loved and that it’s not their fault. Be honest about how things will have to adjust due to temporary and long-term custody arrangements, but try not to scare them by overwhelming them with sudden life changes. Give them time to be sad or angry, but also make sure you leave the lines of communication open in case they want to express themselves.
How long does divorce typically take?
The divorce process can take as few as 31 days in most states, but it normally takes six to twelve months. If there are major differences that need to be worked out, be prepared for the process to take more than a year. The timeline can widely vary based on your circumstances, location, state laws, what is being contested, and how you and your spouse choose to handle the negotiations and proceedings. Consult an attorney for guidance on your unique circumstances.
What will happen to our house and other assets?
During the divorce process, your home and other assets will most likely be divided. The approach will be guided by local and state laws, usually with the goal of creating fairness for all parties. Your division of assets might be based on a variety of factors, like the value of your property, history, lifestyle, infidelity, the needs of any children involved, or the earning potential of either individual.